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Five Tips to Help You Help Your Friends Who are Out of Work!

1 Jun

As CEO of Eastman & Beaudine, one of the major executive search firms in the country, I get calls every day from people who share their hurt after losing their job. Some tell me they didn’t even like their job, in fact, they felt they were tolerated and not celebrated in it. But… the thought that they were now
being outplaced, downsized, pink slipped, asked to take early retirement or even worse being fired caught them so off guard that they felt like they were hit by a brick. For many,  it’s so disruptive and demoralizing that it becomes…too much to handle.

Today, there are still close to 14 million people out of a job–People all around you. Their world has been turned upside down. Who are these people? Do we care? Of course we do! They’re our friends, our family, neighbors, our sons and daughters coming home from the military as well as members at our local church.  This problem hasn’t gone away and yet the newspapers don’t seem to talk about it much anymore,  even though it impacts every family and community? How can that be?

So what exactly do You say to people when you hear they lost their job? What advice do you give a close, dear friend? Do you act as if it didn’t happen, thinking they would tell you if they really wanted to? Do you wait for them to reach out? Well, that might be ok if you’re just an acquaintance, but it’s not ok for friends… is it?!

What are they feeling? I can tell you from experience, they’re embarrassed & panicked. They’re thinking “What am I going to do now?” “Will I be able to find another job?” “What are people going to think about me?” These fear questions can paralyze people. They seem to lead them to the same emotional place: isolation and fear. When people feel threatened it becomes very difficult to tell ourselves the truth. A fog rolls in and takes residence in our minds and all of a
sudden–we’re not able to think clearly. So who do you turn to in a time of crisis? Friends or strangers? Unfortunately people aren’t turning to family & friends and they are the Key! It’s these loved ones that can step in and call a halt to fearful thinking and can intercept us on our dark path—they can remind us that we’re not alone, we’re not isolated and that we have a future and a hope!

So How Can You Help Your Friends? Here are FIVE tips to SHARE!

  1. Reach Out! Not by text or email-Call them or stop by their house. Tell them you heard of their situation, you’re sorry this has occurred but go ahead and shock them by saying: “Congratulations! This is the greatest day of your life!” Why? Because they now get to pick a job they truly Love, with people they Love, in a place they Love, where their family Loves it and where they can do it for all the right reasons.  Best of all-You want to help! Set up a coffee/lunch to strategize next steps!
  2. In the meantime, tell them You want them to read a Special book that will encourage and help them called The Power of WHO! My hope is that you’ll Give them the Book! It’s a great declaration of friendship! I am always touched when someone sends or gives me a book. They won’t forget it! Sign it to them in the front of the book. Say something like this: “Friends are treasures! Thanks for your friendship & love all these years!! When I read this book, I thought about us! I’m All-In!”
  3. Teach & Review the 100/40 strategy that I outline in the book when you meet with them for lunch! Remind them: “You Already Know Everyone You Need To Know!” In fact, explain the amazing truth that “They already know someone right now who knows another person who will introduce them to the person they need to meet.” Tell them the Good News: No more colds calls, No more mass emails, No “networking groups” you have to go to where you’re forced to sit in pairs with people you have no connection with and talk about issues and problems in each other’s lives- Going to these is one notch above a sharp stick in the eye! It’s just about friends helping friends!
  4. When You make the “Extra Effort” to celebrate, encourage, and help others, it establishes stronger bonds of friendship. Each time you do it, it’s an investment that’s never wasted. And what your Friend desperately needs more than anything right now is encouragement from their trusted friend-YOU. They need you to put a firm hand on their shoulder to help stabilize them. They need you to remind them that they are a treasure chest of gifts and talents and that there are still greater things ahead for them! This is where family/friends can really make a difference in boosting morale! Your love helps them believe again!
  5. Finally- be a “Moment Maker!” Most people can recall that “One Special Person” who took timeout to help them and it turned their life around for the better. When someone you admire and respect believes in you, it changes everything. In the same way, there are people who look up to you. You have the power to open the door to someone’s dreams and goals just by believing in them and letting them know it! Help a Friend today! Reach out! Creating these extraordinary moments doesn’t cost you a dime, but I promise—it pays huge dividends!

Click SHARE— To “Help a Friend” in Need!


In Trouble? Where do I turn? Who do I call?

29 Jul

You know, Charlie, life’s like a deck chair. Some people place their deck chair so they can see where they’re going. Some turn it around to see where they’ve been. Others, Charlie, place their deck chair right in the middle of the action to see what’s going on all around them.” Charlie sighs and says, “I’m just trying to get mine unfolded!” —Charles M. Schulz

Some of us are a lot like Charlie…We’re so busy just dealing with job and life issues that we can forget some of the important things so essential to who we truly are.  Perhaps it’s a distant dream, a sensation that keeps popping up, but it’s been so long since you’ve consciously thought about it that you no longer connect the sensation to the dream. Too many have gotten sidetracked and forgotten their original dream, and are now spending their lives doing derivative work. This memory lapse has become epidemic. Where do I turn? Who do I call?

Power of WHO Tips

Stop immediately and call a ‘WHO’ friend.”  

What’s a “WHO” friend?

  • A “WHO” friend will call a halt to fearful thinking by insisting you stop listening to your own negative self-talk. In the face of those lies they will start speaking truth, the truth about your value and uniqueness, the truth about your accomplishments, and the truth about the value of your dreams and goals.
  • A “Who” friend will intercept you on the dark path you’ve taken and redirect your steps back on to the path of light. They know you, care for you, and will remind you that you have a future and a hope.
  • A “Who” friend knows your true identity and won’t let you forget it. When the “Power of Forgetfulness” tries to roll in—you need your “Who.”
  • It’s interesting to look back and see how the patterns woven into the fabric of our circumstances have led us to where we are now. But if you’re going to fulfill your destiny in life you’re going to need some wise friends and advisers to help you see a vision of your future that, perhaps, you can’t see yourself or you just plain forgot…

“Wanting it too badly”…is Never a Good Strategy!

31 May

We’ve all been there at one time or another, whether it’s wanting to make the team, get that part in the play, having a romantic relationship, or landing the Dream Job. If you show you want something too much, your odds of getting it go down significantly. Dogs, dates, and prospective bosses all can sense this overanxious desire.  If you want something or someone too much, you can end up sabotaging yourself. It could be the nervous look, the bouncing leg, or the overly aggressive approach. Regardless of what gives you away, it becomes obvious to everyone around you that you’re too emotionally invested. Wanting something too much changes your natural personality and ends up making you look weak.

Power of WHO Tips

  1. Don’t introduce yourself/Be introduced! Remember:  whether it’s a date, a job interview or making a big sales pitch- having great references, endorsements, and testimonials are your most powerful allies. When your “Who” says you’re great, you are!
  2. Work hard now/so you’ll be your Best! Resolve today not to let competency be a hindrance. Start working on your gifts and talents now. Enjoy each step in the learning and growing process and be willing to pay the price.
  3. Always be authentic. Anything less—you lose! When we suppress our originality, uniqueness, and authenticity, we lose touch with our source of energy and natural creativity. Do yourself an enormous favor. Don’t try to be somebody you “ain’t.” Celebrate your uniqueness. It’s what sets you apart and makes you who you really are.
  4. Stop wanting/Start giving!  When you make the extra effort to celebrate, encourage, and help others, it establishes stronger bonds of friendship. Each time you do it, it’s an investment that is never wasted. There’s a law that governs this principle of encouraging and giving. It’s called the “law of reciprocity.” Simply put, this law states that when you do something good for another person, it actually creates a desire in them to reciprocate. They want to do good back to you. When you do something extra for people, they never seem to forget it and will always try to find a way to balance the equation.
  5. Doing what “You Love” makes you Look better!  Don’t do “Dog Years.” In other words, don’t live one year while aging seven. Whatever you choose to do in life is going to require your time, energy, and commitment. Doing what you don’t love ages you a lot more quickly. The principle is simple: Whatever you do has a transforming effect on you. Living the life you love has the almost magical quality of keeping you young, vibrant, and healthy.

5 Power of “Who” Tips/When Your World Gets Turned Upside Down.

7 May

You’re headed in the right direction, fully confident that everything is going fine when, suddenly and without warning, your world gets turned upside down. It can feel like walking off the edge of a cliff in the dark. One moment you’re on solid ground. Next, you feel like you’re free-falling upside down. Your heart is in your stomach. Instinctively, your arms reach out, flailing around for anything you can grasp that will stop your fall.  

Are you or one of your friends in a situation like this? Because what you do next is critical. Over the years I have found that gifted individuals who temporarily lose their confidence can do some really stupid things. A lifestyle that was once healthy, vibrant, and beneficial can turn toxic when our life circumstances change significantly.

5 Power of WHO Tips

  1. BEWARE of grabbing onto the first thing that comes along. Instead, go ahead and let yourself hit rock bottom! What you’ll find is that-You’re Ok.  You survived!  We all make mistakes and experience setbacks. How you respond to these bumps in the road is everything! 
  2. You Need a “Time-Out!” Railroad crossings urge you to “stop, look, and listen” before you cross the tracks. But do people heed this admonition? A lot don’t. The result is a train wreck. As you begin to think once again about pursuing your dreams and goals, you’re going to need to give yourself a “time-out.” Soul searching is a solitary exercise. If you don’t take this seriously you will, more than likely, settle for just another counterfeit.
  3. Do Not Superimpose an old agenda onto a whole new set of circumstances. It never works. It’s time for a New Plan! Because-If you want something you’ve never had-You’re going to have to do some things you’ve never done!
  4. Reach Out/Ask for Help!  All it takes is one great friend to share some compassion, encouragement, direction & insight that will help you get you back on track. But this will only happen if you’re humble and wise enough to ask, listen, and then let those who are near to you–Help You.
  5. Turn off the Self-Talk!  Most people listen to themselves instead of talk to themselves. When self-defeating thoughts slither their way into your mind, and they will try, don’t let them go unchallenged! So, when you find your thoughts wandering around in the dark trying to get you afraid and depressed, turn on the light! See yourself succeeding and enjoying living your dream.


12 signed copies of “The Power of WHO” GiveAway!

9 Feb

12 Book Giveaway

“Inner Circle” 12-3-1

Some people enter our lives and leave almost instantly. Others stay and forge such an impression on our heart and soul that we are forever changed. – Author Unknown

You get 12 friends. 3 close and 1 best.

Your closest friends are your “Inner Circle” of greatest influence. The reason so many people are confused about who their true friends are is simply because they’ve never declared it. Use these 12 signed copies of “The Power of WHO” as a vehicle to declare friendship with your 12! The author, Bob Beaudine will even personalized the 12 books for your WHO! Don’t miss out on this chance to give a gift that matters.

Here are the rules:

  • Leave a comment on this post that you have entered.
  • Follow me on Twitter for the duration of the contest @YouGotWHO
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  • I’ve entered The Power of WHO 12 book GiveAway! You can win by following @YouGotWHO and RETWEET OFTEN!

    Please leave a comment here to let everyone know that you’re in it for your 12-3-1!

    The winner will be announced when @YouGotWHO reaches 2,000 followers on Twitter. From the pool that features the above message, we’ll randomly select a winner. The more you Comment, Tweet and Retweet, the better chance you have in winning. (You must have a Twitter account!)

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